It seems to oppose the basic tenants of Spirituality teaching. How can anger be of any benefit for anyone trying to follow a Spiritual path? Spirituality is not about being perfect, or never feeling any emotions. Emotions are what allow us to connect to our fellow humans and all the creatures around us. Embracing our anger and looking at its root cause encourages us to embrace all parts of ourselves and let go of the negative energy associated with unexamined, idle anger, which only muddies up our Spiritual path.
What is idle anger and why should it matter? Imagine a car that is running but just sitting there not moving. Is it serving any useful purpose or benefitting anyone in any way? As it sits there, it is wasting gas and causing noise and smoke pollution. Idle anger is like that car, just sitting there, not contributing in any positive way to a persons well being. It causes its own form of pollution and noise in the body and mind of the person it is idling in. It is hard to find your spiritual path when you cannot see the road in front of you for the smoke, or even hear your inner voice to think straight.
Many people categorize anger as a “thing” which must be controlled and segregated away, but by doing that, a person then will consider a part of themselves to be “bad” and not worthy of being included in their whole being.
A very effective method that I employ with my clients who are willing to try to discover the basis for their anger is to practice Journaling. Journaling is simply the act of writing out what is felt about a specific incident as a person feels it, and continuing to write whatever comes to mind. An example of this could be anger at being cut off in traffic while driving. Once the incident is written out and can be view and read aloud, it often becomes clear that memories and other feelings are somehow connected to that anger. With continued writing, incidents and feelings not even related to the driving incident emerge. A pattern begins to be form, which can then be viewed more clearly, and the various emotions and memories associated within it worked on.
It is at this time very beneficial to include the use of one or more healing modalities such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), Hypnotherapy and Spiritual Coaching, in order to dissipate the disruptive emotions associated with the memories involved. Every memory is therefore still maintained, but it no longer holds a negative charge to it.
Once the basis for an ongoing anger is resolved, people often find that day-to-day life becomes easier for them. They are not so quick to become angry with others, and when they do feel angry they are able to feel the emotion, as they should but not let it take over their whole being. Acceptance of the emotion and letting go of it, allows them to continue on in their day and not hold onto that negative energy long term. Their car is no longer idling, and the road is clear ahead of them.