Can you spot the Ostrich in your life? Continue reading to see if the description matches someone in your life.
Fairly recently I had a somewhat shocking and dismaying phone call from a former client. I will call him George for the sake of anonymity.
Now George was a challenging client to start with. When he told me his situation I suggested that perhaps someone else would have the answers he desired, but he insisted on staying and having a session with me, so I did the best I could for him. I was generous with my time, giving him quite a bit of extra time after our session and further information that I thought would benefit him. At the time he acted happy and grateful and was receptive to what he was being told.
So imagine my surprise when George called me up and informed me that his current life circumstances were my fault, and that because of it I owed George not only an explanation but also a free consultation for an unspecified amount of time!
My first reaction was confusion as my brain tried to work out exactly HOW I was responsible for his life? As I tried to assist George further, he became irrational and angry. He made some pretty far out accusations and I felt my own temper rising as he simply was not willing to take any responsibility for his own life and the choices he had made. Every attempt I made at a rational, adult conversation was quite beyond his scope of abilities. He wanted someone to blame and I was it.
After I finished that phone call with George I was left feeling a mix of emotions. I felt angry, frustrated, hurt and confused. After I had calmed down a bit, I felt something else for George, I felt sadness. Here was a man with so much potential, so much that he could have done with his life, so much that he could still do, and yet he did nothing. He was akin to an Ostrich sticking its head in a hole! What a waste!
I’ve met a few people like George in my life as I am sure you have dear readers. What is important to remember when interacting with persons like this, is to determine for yourself at what point do you back away? Some people will continue to resist all good intentions and efforts no matter what, even when they say they want to change or want help. It’s up to you to decide at what point you say, enough is enough. Do not put your own emotional welfare and energy towards people that just want to be an Ostrich!