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Life can be pretty stressful and, if you're not careful, that stress can creep into lots of different parts of your life. Many of us don't realize it but we carry our stress around with us even when we're not actually doing anything stressful. A hard day at work can end up coming home with us, causing tension and arguments with our friends and family. Not only that but it can have genuine negative effects on your health. Stress and tension have been linked to hair loss, IBS and bad posture to name but a few. So what can you do? Well, the best possible thing is to actually take some time to try and rid yourself of all of that stress. That's actually not as easy as it sounds, the problem with stress is that it likes to get in the way. When you're trying to relax, it likes to pop up and remind of all the things you still have to do at work and at home. But don't worry, there are things that you can do. Here are a few simple ways to help you relax and shake of the day's stress.
Empty the house
Spending time with your family and loved ones is incredibly important and can do a lot to help you deal with stress. But sometimes you just need time on your own. There's nothing wrong with kicking your partner or housemates out of the house for a while. If you have children, get your partner or a grandparent to take them out for a while. Get the house to yourself and just enjoy the peace and quiet, even if it's just for a while.
Have a long soak
When people say you carry stress around with you, they really mean it. Your muscles become incredibly tense and knotted when you're dealing with a lot of stress. Taking a long soak in the bath can do wonders for loosening your muscles. You should also get some essential oils to breathe in while you relax. Aromatherapy has been shown to help relax your body and your mind, helping you forget the stress of daily life just that little bit more easily.
Do what you want
There really isn't a single perfect way to relax. The point is to find what it is that relaxes and recharges you. Don't let anyone else tell you what you should or should not be doing. If watching TV or reading a book help you relax, that's great. But if you prefer working out or going for a long walk, that's just fine too! No matter what it is that you're doing, make sure you're doing it for yourself, not because you think you should be doing it. If you do something because you think you should, it's just going to become another source of stress. Remember, this is your time, spend it however you want.
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Divorce is one of the most stressful and pleasant experiences anyone can go through. Of course, no one wants to go through a divorce, but they are pretty common. When it comes to dealing with the stresses and pressures of your divorce, you need as much help as you can get. Here are some of the ways in which you can deal with and avoid some of the most common of those stresses. Read on to learn more.
Try to Stay Calm
Sometimes, it’s the simple things that are the most important things. Staying calm and finding ways to handle stress in a healthy way will help you to get through this divorce without losing your sanity. Everyone is different, so you need to find a way of dealing with stress that suits you. It might mean finding a way to wind down and relax at the end of a stressful day. Or you might need to learn when to withdraw yourself from a situation in order to stay calm. Divorce dealings should never be carried out in anger or frustration. They’re more successful when everyone is calm.
Mediate Rather than Argue
Rather than arguing over who gets what and who gets the best outcome from the divorce, you should mediate. This is the calm and peaceful way of sorting out disputes and disagreements. Not every little disagreement has to descend into a full-blown argument that both of you regret later on. There are plenty of companies that can help you with this kind of mediation. Out of Court Solutions is one example of a company that offers divorce mediation services. See what you can find in your area and think about whether that kind of service could be beneficial to you.
Let Lawyers Deal with Some Issues
Sometimes, it’s best to step back from the divorce proceedings and let the lawyers get on with things. The great thing about letting them do this is that they are not invested in the break up in the way they are. They can take a cold and clinical view of the situation and do what they can to sort out the situation among themselves. It’s better to do this than to persist with arguments that are not helpful for anyone, least of all you. If you and your ex both have lawyers that are trustworthy and good at what they do, this is probably the best route to take.
If There Are Kids Involved, Focus on Them
If the two of you have children together, this should provide you with some important motivation. They should be your main focus throughout the divorce proceedings. If you can keep things calm and avoid arguments, they will definitely benefit from this a great deal. The children should be the one area where you and your ex can agree and come together. You both want what’s best for them, so keep this in mind when going through the divorce. Focusing on them can make the entire experience more pleasant for you both.
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Why is it that life is so difficult sometimes? It can feel like we are being tested, it just one crisis after another! We can easily get stuck in our negative emotions, and this can cause us to act in a negative way. But should we just accept it and do nothing? Or, is there a way that we can improve our situation? Read on to find out.
EFT or Emotional Freedom Therapy is a way of dealing with an emotional block in our lives. For many people, emotional issues or trauma hold them back from making the progress that they deserve. This is because trauma creates patterns in the way we react to things. Meaning if something is difficult for us, anything that reminds us of that can trigger that feeling off and will cause issues for us as well.
EFT is designed to remove these emotional blocks gently. It is based on the acupuncture pressure points of ancient Chinese medicine. EFT is performed by applying a gentle tapping motion to these points. While you do this, you bring the difficult thoughts or emotions to mind. Through tapping on the acupressure points, it gives your body a chance to clear the associated feelings. This then returns your emotional system back into balance.
The Law Of Attraction or LOA is the idea that you attract what you are rather than what you want. It’s based on the idea that everything is energy. So the type of energy that you give off is the type of energy that you received back. For example, if you are full of negative energy you will attract negative things. But if you are full of gratitude, peace, and happiness you will attract good things.
Some people think that the Law Of Attraction does not work, but other are wowed by the effect that it has had in their lives. For example, one person that was worried about money started to kiss their household bills as they arrived. They also said thank you for the services and products that they were paying for, which reminded them that they were lucky that they had these things. So instead of creating a negative energy around their finances they created one of gratitude and abundance. They believed that this then attracted like for like and so the universe was able to provide more money and wealth for them.
Mediation is another way that we can deal with how our emotions affect our life. We know that if we are angry or anxious going into a situation, it's more likely that we will act out in term of theses exemptions. That can cause a self-fulfilling prophecy. Meaning the thing we were worried about is more likely to come to pass, due to our actions.
Meditation is a way of watching our thoughts and emotions that allow us to put some distance between them. It defuses them so you can think or feel something, but you are no longer a slave to acting on it. Instead, you can choose a more constructive way of acting in any given situation, which in turn can have a positive effect on the way a situation turns out.