The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work
An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If someone asked me right at that moment what was I thinking about? I would lie. The shame of thinking about, wanting to eat and then feeling terrible because I had eaten something “bad” would overwhelm me. For example, until recently, chocolate was my addiction. Once I ate one bar, I began to dream about other types of chocolate bars that I adored and often would eat another bar or two right afterwards. Caramel and cookies enrobed in chocolate, dark chocolate with mint cream filling, crunchy nuts and nougat surrounded by a milk chocolate coating….I could not get enough! So what! you may say, big deal! Who cares what people think. In a perfect world, that would be true, but this world isn’t perfect. It’s full of judgments and opinions, and one of the most predominant is that fat people should never eat anything unhealthy, EVER. Fat people should feel shame, and loathing if they don’t order a salad and a glass of water for dinner. Every fast food commercial on television would fill me with a mix of dread and joy. Dread because I wanted to eat it all, and joy because the images were so divine.
Wait? Am I saying that I am fat that word that is often whispered with shame? F*A*T. Yes I am, and that is okay. No really. This post isn’t about fat acceptance though, at least not directly. This post is about how food ruled my life. It’s about how even though I wanted to be healthier and tried oh so many times before to do the whole kill myself at the gym, and deprive myself of certain food in the hopes that I would eventually not want it. Well none of that worked in the long term.
NONE OF IT!
Willpower right? That is the answer! That is what EVERYONE says when someone cannot commit to losing weight. So that MUST be the answer because that is the problem. Personal Trainers and Doctors and friends and family all say it as does that uber slim co-worker –who- lost- so- much- weight- and- you- can –do- it- to! Right?
Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT for short is what worked for me. Was it easy and fun and gosh so fast that the pounds just flew off and people now don’t even know who I am because I look so different???? Well yes and no. I did lose weight; so far I have lost about 15 lbs and 5 inches from my waist so I do look a little different physically. The real difference to me though is in my energy levels, and how I now feel so much more at peace, and the peace that seems to radiate from me, because I no longer have a raging, seemingly uncontrollable urge to eat junk food, or unhealthy food. I no longer daydream about food. I now eat to fuel my body, not to fuel or push down my emotions, which were literally causing me to be disabled, emotionally and physically.
EFT is a method of tapping with certain fingers on specifics points in the body. These points are called meridians, and they are also used in acupuncture. When the points are tapped, and certain statements are made, emotions, memories, physical symptoms and many other sensory cues are awakened. The mind-body-spirit connect is real. Emotional suppression or issues can lead to a whole host of physical and/or psychological issues. For many people, eating is not about food, it is about emotions and producing a feeling of comfort in their mind and body with each bite.
When I started to practice EFT on a regular and consistent basis I began to slowly work on my own personal issues, which were often not even related to food or body acceptance. Emotional issues and memories emerged that I was able to work on, many of which I had either forgotten or simply pushed down inside of myself to a deep place that I didn’t even want to know about. Do I still love food? YES! Do I want to eat food all the time or dream about food every day? NO. I still have foods that I like to eat, and sometimes I will indulge and have some small treat, and I am okay with that.
Recently at a gathering, I came upon the food table and there sat a big bowl full of mixed nuts and raisins. Healthy right? Sure, except for the candy coated chocolate that was dispersed throughout it! As I stood there looking at the bowl, I asked myself what did I feel? Did I want the nuts, raisins and chocolate? You know what I discovered? I kind of wanted the nuts, but then I’d have to take out the part I didn’t want: The chocolate. The chocolate made it too much work, so I ended up enjoying the raw vegetables instead.
That is the power of Emotional Freedom Techniques.
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