Never Allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. ~ Mark Twain

 If it is done with a malicious intent, it is considered Double Speak. If a person speaks this way this because they are lonely, socially awkward, absentminded or on medication for example, it is not considered to be coming from a malicious space and thus is not categorized as Double Speak.

​ Why do some people talk like this?  When a person speaks this way with a malicious intent in mind, it is because they are able to avoid a question  entirely or simply answer a part of it, veiled in language that distracts and goes off topic at every opportunity. This can be done with great success to the point that the person who has asked the question has forgotten all about it, and become entirely caught up in the new topic of conversation!  

How do I know someone is speaking this way? The easiest way to spot a Double Speaker is to listen to them talk to you after having asked them a question. Do they get to the point? Has your question been answered in a timely manner, or are they giving you multiple examples and stories that only seem vaguely related to what you asked? For example: you ask the basic meaning behind a symbol they are wearing expecting a quick answer.  What you get instead, is a 30 minute rambling detailing a personal story of how the symbol relates to them, the universe, and the social and political meanings of it, before they change the topic and ask you something totally unrelated.  At no point has the person actually answered your question! This is a sure sign of a Double Speaker!

Why is it important to be able to spot this type of speaker? This type of person is a master at manipulation. They are able to make people believe that they possess more knowledge than they do. They are able to put themselves in a position of power by doing this. When you are able to spot this speech pattern, it is like a light bulb going off.  In the workplace, this Double Speaker shows a good game face, but behind the scenes they may be late with their work or trying to pass off mistakes onto others. Whether you are in a higher executive position or are a co-worker, being able to spot them allows you to clearly see the person for whom they are. You can quickly see their tricks and avoid them, or in the case of hiring management positions, decide if this person is suited for their current position or a new one.

In your personal life, with your newfound ability to spot this Double Speaker, you can quickly categorize people and decide where they fit for you, whether it is in your dating life or with friends and family.  Double Speakers within friends and family are apt to use Emotional Blackmail to further enhance their abilities. Using language as their weapon of choice, they are able to verbalize a reality in which they are being oppressed and hurt, and at the same time transform details and events as they actually occurred with their Double Speak, convincing people that they are in fact the innocent party and the victim.

No one wants to be a victim of a Double Speaker and people who employ Double Speak have lots of practice being undetected, but if you learn to spot the signs of a Double Speaker, you can save yourself much heartache and pain and increase your clarity of thought.

Whatever your abilities, consider sharing them with others. You will enrich your life and theirs by sharing what comes naturally to you. Read on to learn more in this personal article.

Many people have natural gifts whether it is scholastic skills like math or language, or life skills like cooking or organizing. Other skills we learn and hone over the years, picking up bits of information here and there until we reach a point where we feel comfortable and competent at that task such as driving a car.

For those of us who have abilities that fall outside of the “normal” range, life can be challenging, especially when we are children. As a child, I personally had no idea what to do with the skills I seemed to possess, and nor did my family. My sibling and I are both adopted from different blood lines, and yet, he too has abilities that overwhelmed my family growing up. I remember being perhaps 6 or 7 and waking up to my brother screaming and begging to mother to “ask them to leave me alone!” My mother brushed it off as a dream, but it wasn’t. As an adult my brother chose to ignore his many abilities and I had done the same for many years as I had no idea what to do with my gifts.

One of my gifts that I have is a very strong intuitive ability which helps me to “know” people upon meeting them. That is not to say that I can read their mind, but I can read their energy.  As a child I was often overwhelmed by the energy people put out and would hide during family parties to escape the onslaught of energy and emotions from people.  As an adult I learned to shield myself to protect myself from unwanted energy and I learned that I could also read the energy in photographs.  In the beginning it was a parlour trick of sorts for me. I used to look at real estate listings and see what came up for me regarding the property. My husband wasn’t so thrilled with my ability when I would point out that a particular house was haunted by at least one spirit!

In the past I used my ability to read photographs through a service I offered called intuitive photo reading.  It was a way for me to use that particular ability in a positive manner to help people, and really that is what life is all about. If you have a particular gift, make use of it and share it. Are you a natural teacher, dancer, or artist? Do you find organizing or planning events easy and enjoyable?  Have you reached a point in your life where something is missing but you just don’t know what it is? Consider sharing your gifts with someone else. Volunteer, start a business, help a friend or neighbour. What may seem easy to you can be very difficult for someone else. They will be so grateful to you, not only for your natural gift, but also for your gift of sharing.

There lies in all of us an imaginary creature that protects our soul and reminds us of our voice. Visually they can be imagined as beings such as Dragons, Bears, Wolves, Eagles, and so forth.  Many cultures around the world have used creatures from land, sea and air to tell stories, to teach of morals and social rules, to represent gods and demons, and teach that creatures can be guides and mentors. Probably the most well-known example of this is in Native American cultures, where, regardless of the tribe, creatures are seen as spirit guides, while others are given a different classification and are used as a symbol of that tribe.

 A modern day example of this is the fictional world of Harry Potter written by J.K. Rowling. The “houses” or tribes if you will, of the Magician school are divided by creatures both real such as a snake, and legendary creatures like the Gryphon which is a combination of an Eagle and a Lion, two very powerful symbols.

In our lives we have opportunity sometimes to unconsciously evoke these creatures: to find the strength of an Ox, the agility of a Deer, the maternal instinct to defend our loved ones likes a Mamma Bear complete with growl and gnashing teeth! We all know those moments and remember them as they have a strong imprint on us.  For me personally I have several creature symbols that spring to mind, one of the strongest I have is a Phoenix. A Phoenix is a mythical bird of lore that is born of fire, and when it is old and tired, it goes into the fire and is reborn again. The first time I found myself as an adult, I imagined myself as a Phoenix being reborn.

Sometimes our creature guides are not very clear to us, but they support us still. When I left an abuse ex many years ago, I did not feel very strong. I felt that I was an emotional wreck.  I had been betrayed, my heart and spirit almost broken by a man who constantly accused me of doing all sorts of things, and who questioned my love, and all the while he was the one doing them and betraying my trust. I felt that my voice was lost to who I became because of his abuse. My own thoughts betrayed me with self-doubt and worry about everything because I didn’t know what to do or think anymore.  Looking back on that time, I think my creature for change was an Elephant or big Bear that just refused to be pushed anymore! That creature inside of me said “No more!” and I followed that tiny ray of hope.  I remember clearly the pain of crawling bit by bit back from the edge, until I reached a point where I was able to embrace that animal energy and find my true self again.  I can now remember that time and know that I am not that person anymore and I thank my guides for reminding me of the power that had always lived inside of me.

If you are searching for answers or just wondering what creature guides you, start by listing your favorite creatures both mythical and real. See which ones stand out to you and resonate with you. If you are experiencing a troubled time in your life, embrace your strong emotions and try to think of what creature comes to mind for you. List the qualities, strengths and weakness of the creatures that come to you and see how you can use them to assist you. Do you sense a fiery Dragon lost in a forest? How about a tiny mouse in a huge room? Do your see the solutions? The Dragon can fly or breathe fire! How is it that Dragon is lost when it can just fly straight up into the air and reveal a clear view of the land and be free? However, what if the Dragon feels trapped and is unable to spread its wings enough to fly? Do you feel like the Dragon, forgetting its inner fire? Fire that can just burn away obstacles in its path. What does that mean? It could mean that you are not allowing yourself to express your personal power and you feel trapped. That little mouse may be small but it is able to find its way into spaces that others may not see. Are you limiting your options in life but not examining routes that you hadn’t thought of before or allowed yourself to see?

Jade
Let Your Spirit Grow.com