I am an intuitive.  I  just "know" things without a logical reason.  It's a feeling deep within my soul. I trust the information I receive on this level to be true. I can also feel energy and see images and symbols . Many people have asked me how that works for me, and when did I know I had this gift? I tell people that I have had it all of my life, but as a child the strength of my gift scared me, and having no support or guidance as to what to do with it, I learned to ignore it for the most part or push it away. Only as an adult was I able to allow myself to accept that part of me and use it to help myself and eventually help others. I rely on my intuition a great deal to help guide me and give me information about people and situations. Sometimes that scares people as they think I can read their mind or see into the future. I assure you I cannot. If I could do that, I would have looked for the winning lotto numbers long ago!

Intuition is not a mystical or magical thing. It is something that everyone carries within them, but so many people are frightened by their own voice. Often this is because they feel that they never had a voice growing up. They were taught on so many levels that they should not be heard, not even by themselves.

What sort of effect does not having a voice cause in your adult life? Well, it can show itself in various ways. One way is the type of person who can never stop talking. Wait…what?? Yes, because a person who never had a voice as a child, realizes as an adult that they do have an outer voice, and they want to use it all the time, so they never stop! Chatter, chatter all the time, never allowing anyone else to get a word in edgewise, or worst of all never allowing themselves to hear their own inner voice.

Another example is someone who is so quiet; when they do speak you are not even sure you can hear them say anything. Again, they don’t trust their voice, or that anyone will want to hear them so they speak very quietly. Sometimes a person is so hard on themselves, they will stutter and stammer, gasping for words and air as they struggle to speak.

What do all these people have in common? They struggle with feeling like they are not heard, even as adults, they have allowed that early “training” to convince them, that they are not worth hearing. It has gone so far, that they dare not begin to listen to their inner voice either.

What is this voice I speak of? What is Intuition? Intuition is not a voice of fear of something that poses danger to you. It is the voice that protects you from danger, or circumstances that will not benefit you in the long term. 

Women especially have learned to ignore their inner voice that is screaming to them. In relationships, in social settings, with strangers who seem nice and stop to ask for directions or offer assistance, that little voice is often ignored. LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION. IT CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE!  What do I mean save your life? Save you dear reader on so many levels! Yes from obvious dangers such as predators or theft, but dangers of the spirit too.

 An example of this would be to continue to stay in a relationship with someone who is a lovely person, but you are just not a great match for each other.  Every day that you try to force a relationship to work between two people who should just not be together, is another day where you allow a little bit of yourself to die. You are doing a disservice to yourself and to the person you are with by not listening to what your inner voice is telling you. This applies to both men and women. 

If your intuition is screaming to you, about anything, please listen to it. I am not writing this to cause fear and terror into anyone. I don’t want you to go  around in your life and be afraid of everyone and everything.

The goal is not to lock yourself away so no one can hurt you; the goal is to listen to your little voice called intuition so that you can begin to have faith in yourself. 

You have more power than you can imagine. You have more strength than you can imagine. You are not a physical being struggling to be spiritual, you are a spiritual being trapped in a physical body.

If we learn to open our heart, we learn to let love in, in whatever form we need. Someone shared this beautiful video with me, and I want to share it with you dear readers. 

In general, It is often easier to explore your spirituality when you are single.  When a person is single their time is their own. It seldom matters how much of your free time is taken for meditation, yoga classes, or retreats. Single people also have the freedom to decorate in any style they desire, and that includes objects which speak to their spiritual soul,  like a Buddha figure or gemstones.  

The single life is wonderful for many people. There is nothing wrong with being single and loving it, if that is the direction you have chosen for your life. For those who are not single though, negotiating time and energy for spiritual discovery can be a difficult thing, especially when your partner has no interest in finding or changing their own spiritual path.

What should you do? Do you force your partner to learn with you? Do you give them gifts of books on what you are studying?  

Respect 

It is very important that you do not try to force your personal views and beliefs onto you partner. Do not berate them for their choices, or act superior because you have decided to explore a new avenue of belief and learning. Do not add spiritual objects to your home with a total disregard of your partners personal space. Your partner is on their own path, just as you are, and both of you have to focus on your own individual journeys.

For most couples, this will be a difficult time. The transition in thinking, the emotions, and the excitement of learning can be overwhelming for the partner who is, for lack of a better term “left behind.”

Find Balance 

The method for dealing with this period, is to work on finding balance. For the person who is exploring their spiritual path and the person who is not. If you learn something new that you want to share with your partner, do it lovingly and gently without forcing your beliefs onto them.

Don't Do This

You have just taken a class on Chakras. You are excited and want to share all that you have learned with your partner. In your excitement you buy a collection of gemstones which relate to the Chakras.  You insist on giving your partner “their” stone. This is a gemstone that you have picked  for them. You are certain it is theirs because you are convinced a certain Chakra point in them needs to be "fixed." You then thrust this stone into their  hand, and insist that they have this “problem”. Without giving them a chance to speak you then describe in detail to them all of their “issues”. You then order them to carry the gemstone with them at all times.  

Do This Instead

You have just taken a class on Chakras. You are excited and want to share all that you have learned with your partner. In your excitement you buy a collection of gemstones which relate to the Chakras. You really want to share what you have learned with your partner, but you recognize that they may not be receptive to what you have just learned. You love your partner very much and although you want to share your new knowledge right away, you decide to find a beautiful bowl to display your new gemstones in instead. By doing this, you know that your partner will see them at some point. You also know that if they are interested, they will ask you about them. If that happens, you will briefly explain what they are for, and will only elaborate IF and WHEN they ask. You also decide to leave your books from the class on your coffee table, so that you or anyone else can read them too. You know that just like water flowing down a river, it is best to let people find their own way, at their own pace.

Feeling Left Out

What about the partner on the receiving end of all this spiritual enlightenment? They may feel that they have a partner they do not recognize.  They may begin to feel left out, alone or no longer compatible. One thing a partner can do is to try and offer support during this time of exploration. They should not make light of their partners choices. Work together to create a space that works for both of you through communication and compromise.

Two people who are committed to each other can be on different paths, and sometimes those paths can overlap. Experience different views, share new discoveries with each other at a leisurely pace, and continue to be there for your partners as you journey together.