I am an intuitive reader and healer. Many people have asked me how that works for me and when did I know I had this gift? I tell people that I have had it all of my life, but as a child the strength of my gift scared me, and having no support or guidance as to what to do with it, I learned to ignore it for the most part or push it away.  Only as an adult was I able to allow myself to accept that part of me and use it to help myself and eventually help others. I rely on my intuition a great deal to help guide me and give me information about people and situations. Sometimes that scares people as they think I can read their mind or see into the future. I assure you I cannot. If I could do that, I would have looked for the winning lotto numbers long ago!

Intuition is not a mystical or magical thing. It is something that everyone carries with them, but so many people are frightened by their own voice, often times because they never had a voice growing up, so they were taught on so many levels that they should not be heard, not even by themselves.

What sort of effect does not having a voice cause in your adult life? Well, it can show itself in various ways such as the type of person who can never stop talking. Wait…what?? Yes, because a person, who never had a voice as a child, realizes as an adult that they do have an outer voice, and they want to use it all the time, so they never stop! Chatter, chatter all the time, never allowing anyone else to get a word in edgewise, or worst of all never allowing themselves to hear their own inner voice.

Another example is someone who is so quiet; when they do speak you are not even sure you can hear them say anything. Again, they don’t trust their voice, or that anyone will want to hear them so they speak very quietly. Sometimes a person who is so hard on themselves, they will stutter and stammer, gasping for words and air as they struggle to speak.

What do all these people have in common? They struggle with feeling like they are not heard, even as adults, they have allowed that early “training” to convince them, that they are not worth hearing. It has gone so far that they dare not begin to listen to their inner voice either.

What is this voice I speak of? What is Intuition? Intuition is not a voice of fear of something that poses no danger to you. It is the voice that protects you from danger, or circumstances that will not benefit you in the long term. 

Women especially have learned to ignore their inner voice that is screaming to them. In relationships, in social settings, with strangers who seem nice and stop to ask for directions or offer assistance, that little voice is often ignored. LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION. IT CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE!  What do I mean save your life? Save you dear reader on so many levels! Yes from obvious dangers such as predators or theft, but dangers of the spirit too.

 An example of this would be to continue to stay in a relationship with someone who is a lovely person, but you are just not a great match for each other.  Every day that you try to force a relationship to work between two people who should just not be together, is another day where you allow a little bit of yourself to die. You are doing a disservice to yourself and to the person you are with by not listening to what your inner voice is telling you. This applies to both men and women. 

If your intuition is screaming to you, about anything, please listen to it. I am not writing this to instill fear and terror into anyone. I don’t want you to go  around in your life and be afraid of everyone and everything. The goal is not to lock yourself away so no one can hurt you; the goal is to listen to your little voice called intuition so that you can begin to have faith in yourself.  You have more power than you can imagine. You have more strength than you can imagine. You are not a physical being struggling to be spiritual, you are a spiritual being trapped in a physical body.

Jade
Let Your Spirit Grow.com

If we learn to open our heart, we learn to let love in, in whatever form we need. Someone shared this beautiful video with me, and I want to share it with you dear readers. 

One Sided Spirituality

When Your Partner Doesn’t Care To Find Their Inner Bliss

 

It is easier to explore your spirituality when you are single. There I said it. A sweeping statement that will no doubt both offend and possibly enlighten at the same time. Well, it’s true. When a person is single their time is their own. It seldom matters how much of your free time is taken for meditation, yoga classes, or blissful retreats. There is no one else to worry about, no one else to debate as to the best location for your latest Buddha figure, and no one to make faces at you as you say “OM” loudly whilst meditating.  

Why, the single life sounds like heaven doesn’t it? It can be for many people and there is nothing wrong with being single and loving it if that is the direction you have chosen for your life. For those who are not single though, negotiating time and energy for spiritual discovery can be a difficult thing, especially when your partner has no interest in finding their own inner bliss.

So what is a person to do? Do you force your partner to meditate with you? Do you give them gifts of books on Chakras and energy work?  No-You-Do-Not. Repeat after me. Do not try to force your personal views and beliefs onto you partner. Do not berate them for their choices or start to feel superior because you have decided to explore a new avenue of belief and learning. Do not cover every corner of your home in symbols and artifacts of your choosing with a total disregard of your partners’ personal space.  Your partner is on their own path, just as you are, and both of you have to concentrate on your own individual journeys.

For most couples, this will be a difficult time. The transitions in thinking, the emotions, and the excitement in learning new things can be overwhelming for the partner who is, for lack of a better term “left behind.” The method for dealing with this period, is working on finding balance. For the person who is exploring their spiritual path and the person who is not. If you learn something new that you want to share with your partner, then share it, lovingly and gently without forcing your beliefs onto them.  Let me show you an example of what NOT to do: You have just taken a class on Chakras (energy centres in the body). You are super excited and want to share all that you have learned with your partner. In your excitement you have run out and bought a collection of gemstones which relate to the Chakras.  You rush home to give your partner “their” stone, the stone you are sure is theirs as you are convinced a certain Chakra point in them is not functioning well. You then thrust this stone into their clothing pocket and insist that they have this “problem” which you begin to describe in detail to them, pointing out all of their “issues”. You then order them to carry the gemstone with them at all times.  Well, that made me want to learn….not!

Try this approach instead:  You have just taken a class on Chakras (energy centres in the body). You are super excited and want to share all that you have learned with your partner. In your excitement you have run out and bought a collection of gemstones which relate to the Chakras.  When you get home, you really do want to share what you have learned with your partner but you recognize that they may not be receptive to what you have just learned. You love your partner very much and although you want to share your new found knowledge right away, you decide to find a beautiful bowl to display your new gemstones and place them on display somewhere your partner is sure to see them. If your partner asks you about them you will explain what they are for in a brief description, relaying more information IF and WHEN you are asked. You decide to leave the textbooks from the class on the table as well so anyone visiting you can look at it as they wish or discuss it with you as they desire. You know that just  like water flowing down a river, it is best to let people find their own way, at their own pace, offering guidance only when they desire, and ask for it.

What about the partner on the receiving end of all this spiritual enlightenment? How strange it must be to perhaps have a partner you do not recognize at times.  You may begin to feel left out, alone and perhaps no longer compatible.  Only you can decide what path your life will take, but if you decide that you still love your partner, then try to support them in their exploration. (As long as it is legal and no one is getting hurt of course)  You don’t have to commit to meditating with them or carrying a gemstone if you don’t want to, but don’t put them down. Do not belittle their choices or make faces when a new decorative piece enters the home.  Create a space for yourself that is your sanctuary, and set firm boundaries with your partner that your space is sacred to you, and not to be altered without your consent.  Compromise and continue to communicate with each other.

Just because two people who are committed to each other are on different paths does not mean that they never overlap.  Don’t just walk straight ahead and never look around. Experience different views, share new discoveries with each other at a leisurely pace, and hold your partners hand as you journey together.


Jade
Let Your Spirit Grow.com