Learn how self hypnosis can free you from your self set limitations.
Read more in this heartfelt post.
When I was a little girl, I used to dream that someone would rescue me from my life. I never thought of myself as a princess. I was certainly never raised like one or taught to act like one, but I still wanted to be saved by someone.
No Knight To Rescue Me
As the years went by, no one came to save me. I waited like I was supposed to, but I saw no brave knights. Where was he? I wondered why I had no flowers, no gentlemanly kisses to my hand, and no offers of courting. In my heart, I knew that I was a good person, I prided myself on not being like the negative people around me. Every day I saw by example those who seemed to enjoy seeing people suffer. I consoled myself that I certainly didn’t get any joy out of anyone’s suffering, so therefore, I was sure to be rescued soon!
While I continued to wait, there was constant negativity directed at me. It made me doubt myself and my actions more and more. I was building bricks for my tower without even realizing it. Soon I had built so many bricks for my tower, that it was almost blocking out all the light around me. I began only paying attention to the darkness. That darkness fed my fears, ignorance of life, false beliefs, and poor self esteem.
One day I had enough. I decided that sitting in a tower was pretty darn boring! I wanted to learn things! I wanted to live my life! I wanted to have my own voice! I looked around my tower and I realized that even though the negative people in my life had helped me build the bricks, it was me who had built my tower. No one had put me in that enclosed space but myself. So I looked around my tower, and I decided that things needed to change, because my prince wasn’t coming, this wasn’t Camelot, and I was no Guinevere!
Bring A Positive Voice
I had no idea where I was going to start or how, so I just started with something I already knew how to do. I know how to talk to myself. It sounds strange but so many people do it. The difference now was that I would only talk to myself with positive messages. Any time I heard myself saying something negative out loud or in my head, I would correct myself, and change the message to a positive one.
I forced myself to get out there and be social. When I met someone new, previously I would have told myself that the person "wasn’t interested in what I had to say". With the “new” me, I forced myself to say: “This will be fun. It’s exciting to meet new people. I wonder what interesting conversations we will have?”
At first it was incredibly hard for me to even think positive thoughts! I struggled to maintain control and not panic when I spoke to new people. Often I would pretend that I was excited to meet someone new, but inside I was shaking with insecurity. Eventually, forcing myself to do it over and over again, I began to realize that it wasn’t an act anymore. I really did enjoy meeting new people and having interesting conversations. Once I could get out of living in my own thoughts all the time, I started to observe body language and mannerisms, and I saw that other people were nervous too! I was not alone after all.
I didn’t know it at the time, but I learned years later what I was doing is a form of Self Hypnosis. Self Hypnosis is something that most people do all day long, but unfortunately, many people give themselves negative messages. Negative self talk only causes a reinforcement of negative patterns in the brain. What does that mean? It means that if all you see, hear and speak is negative, then you will unconsciously look for negative in every situation. You will attract, and feel negative all the time.
With that one action of continued positive self-talk, I had kicked out some the bricks in my tower to let more light in. By doing that, I was able to see that there was hope in my life, so I kept encouraging myself to try new things. I went to social events that I never would have gone to before. I forced myself to talk to people, sometimes people I knew, mostly people I didn’t know. Sometimes that didn’t go very well, because I ended up talking to people who were stuck in their own negative patterns, but I kept trying. The braver I got, the stronger I felt. I volunteered in hospitals so that I would be forced to interact with people. One volunteer position was in a hospital gift store so I could learn new skills without the pressure of worrying about being fired if I messed up!
Let The Light In
Everyone has their own path in life, and only YOU get to decide how you will view it. If you only see the rocks you stumble on, or the animals that try to bite you, you will miss some incredible aspects of your journey along the way. If you hold fear in your heart, and build up your tower so you never move forward, never feel the touch of another; never move on from past negative experiences, you will have deprived yourself of a full life and an amazing journey.
As the years have gone by and my life has gone up and down, with a variety of negatives and positives. Everyone is a work in progress as no one is perfect; no one is without fault. Today my tower has some bricks left. They are pretty strong and resistant to breaking, but that is okay. I am working on them, and loving myself, knowing the light can reach me now.
Does the Festive Season cause you stress because there are too many food temptations? Read more on how you can stop your food cravings and enjoy the Festive Season once again.
Temptations All Around
The festive season is probably the hardest time of year for anyone trying to have a healthier lifestyle. Enticing food temptations are around every corner, from gourmet stores displaying luxurious treats, to co-workers baking goodies and bringing them in to share.
It can be overwhelming and intimidating to try and constantly resist them, especially with well meaning persons encouraging you to have “just a taste” or saying things like “come on, it’s the holidays, one bite won’t kill you!”
It may be true that one bite won’t kill you but it could lead to an avalanche of poor choices and the attitude of defeat~ “well I gave in all last week, so I might as well just give up trying.” How do you stay motivated to resist temptation when you are faced with it every day?
Tapping On Emotional Memories
Commonly called Tapping, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a useful and effective tool to help combat food cravings because it works on the emotional memory tied to a food craving. The myth of "willpower" makes it seem that only those with a strong will can avoid all the delightful treats around them. Images of desired foods are very appealing, and are able to sway many people to suddenly want something that had not thought about, like seeing a tray of Festive cookies in front of them and suddenly wanting to eat them! Food cravings are increased when we smell food. Our sense of smell is one of our strongest senses. Smells tie us to emotional memories, like the smell of fresh baked cookies can remind someone of a happy childhood memory like baking with a grandparent.
EFT is a technique, which is most effective when done with a specific goal in mind. When working with food cravings, it is helpful to have that item – for example a cookie, placed in front of the person who wishes to work on their cookie cravings is the first step to combating the desire to eat it. All of our senses are engaged when we are around food. EFT works with all of our senses and our physical and emotional reactions to foods. The sight, smell, taste, sound, touch, and emotional connections to that food are all worked on bit by bit until the desire to eat the unwanted food is greatly reduced or disappears all together.
A Fun Experiment
There is a fun experiment anyone can try to see how much our physical responses and emotional responses play into our food cravings.
1. Have a desired food item (still in its packaging) placed on a table in front of the person who is craving it.
2. Have the person only look at the food in question and ask them how much they are craving it on a scale of 1-10? With 10 being that the have a very urgent desire to eat the food.
3. Ask the person to now handle the food and open the packaging on that food item. Notice the physical and emotional responses the person will exhibit. You will see physical signs such as heart racing, skin flushing, inhaling to smell the food better, and mouth watering. Emotional responses can smiling, happiness, anxiety (guilt) or anger because they are being tempted.
So if this Festive Season you want to try to not to eat every temptation you come across, try EFT. There are many reputable practitioners who can help you overcome your physical and emotional tie to food cravings.
Self hypnosis can help motivate you to make positive changes in your life.
Sometimes life can be a real struggle. When you are sick, or your home is messy, work is exhausting and maybe your pets are demanding; all you want to do is pull the covers over your head and go back to sleep! Simple motivation can be a challenge never mind continuing your path of learning and spiritual growth!
Self Hypnosis To The Rescue!
Hypnosis can help you find your motivation to make positive changes in your life. Give yourself positive messages and encouragement. It can be anything that will help you be more proactive. Simple instructions like: "Wash half the dishes and then you can have that next cup of coffee” Or “I will fold this laundry and then feel great when it's gone."
Whether you say it out loud or in your own head, giving yourself positive messages and encouragement are all methods of Self Hypnosis. We do this every day without even thinking about it. When you drive home and don’t remember how you got to your driveway is a form of Self Hypnosis.
Hypnosis Is Relaxing
Hypnosis is something that often makes people feel scared or uneasy. People often think of it as something mystical or magical but that is not Hypnosis. We are often in a Hypnotic state but we don’t even realize it. Think of that moment when you are just about to fall asleep. Your whole body feels relaxed and heavy, and it seems too much effort to open your eyes or even move a limb. That is a Hypnotic state. You have allowed yourself to relax, not only you body but your mind as well. It is at that time, that you may start to dream or have random thoughts or images. What you are doing is allowing your subconscious mind to be present. You are allowing yourself to relax and receive whatever information is there for you. Are you still in control? Could you make yourself wake up if you wanted to? Of course you could. You are still in control of your mind and your body, just as would be in a Hypnosis session with a Hypnotherapist.
Seeing A Hypnotherapist For Help
If you feel like Self Hypnosis is great but you need more help, you can visit a Hypnotherapist. Hypnotherapy gives you a chance to decide what direction you want to go in, and what you want to work on. A certified Hypnotherapist will help guide you to reach a relaxed state, to then work on whatever you need to.
What can you work on in a Hypnotic state? The simple answer is anything you want to, as long as you are open and honest with yourself and are willing to change. Smoking and food addictions, stress, anxiety, breaking patterns, and so much more can be helped with Hypnotherapy, but really it is any issue that you feel is detrimental or disruptive to your quality of life.
It's Not For Everyone
There are certain individuals that will either have a harder time or may not be able to be helped with Hypnosis. Mental illness such as Schizophrenia or persons with a mental deficiency will most likely not be able to be helped, as they are either not able to maintain the concentration and relaxation needed to access their subconscious mind for an extended period of time, or they may be in a subconscious state all the time. When that happens, the connection to the present moment is not as stable, and harder to maintain for the purposes of self-realization and examination of behaviors and patterns, and beliefs.
So dear readers tonight when you find yourself drifting off to sleep take a moment and enjoy the physical sensation of that relaxed state. Enjoy the sensation that of all of your muscles are relaxed; notice how calm you feel and perhaps even hear the sound of your gentle breathing. Feel the softness of your pillow cradling your head and the warmth of your blanket. Notice how you feel peaceful, relaxed and open to receive whatever your subconscious puts forth as you are in a wonderful Hypnotic State.
Have you ever thought about your pets spiritual well being?
Read on to learn how EFT & Reiki for pets can help your pet find spiritual peace.
They can dig up you lawn, eat your flowers, tear apart your new leather shoes, scratch a beloved piece of furniture, drop your precious china on the floor, and generally make messes and more work for you, but you love them anyway. Who is this creature? It’s none other than the family pet.
Whether they have fur or feathers, scales or spikes, for many of us, our pets become part of our family. We tolerate their occasional disasters or early morning wake up calls because we receive a rare and precious gift back, the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.
Okay so it may be hard to tell if your pet fish or exotic lizard really loves you, but they do trust you to take care of them and they depend on you. An Ipsos Reid poll shows that 83% of Canadians consider their pet to be a family member, with 4 in 10 believing that pets can be a good substitute for human companionship. So your pet is seen as a member of your family. You make sure it has all its basic needs met, now what?
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUES AND REIKI
What about your pets spiritual well being? Don’t worry, you don't have to meditate with your cat or try to find your dogs inner puppy! (unless you really want to) A combination of Reiki and EFT can be beneficial for pets, and it is especially helpful for pets that can be held and touched comfortably. If you want to try it this your lizard, fish or other type of non furry pet, please use appropriate precautions, and a gentle touch as always.
Reiki can be used on hyper pets with great success. The ancient practice of Japanese energy healing can help animals to become calmer, happier and more content. When working with any animal, knowing their temperament is important before you start any sort of energy work or healing modality. if you have a volatile pet, or are trying to help someone else’s pet, always proceed with caution or call upon a professional with more experience.
EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique is a form of acupressure which is used to help with many emotional and physical issues. Moving is one life event that is very stressful for pets. EFT techniques designed specifically for pets can help them to be calmer in their new home, and relieve separation anxiety that may arise from being in new surroundings.
HIRE A PROFESSIONAL
If you are looking to hire an EFT expert to work with your pet, you need to know that a gently massage on the required points, instead of the standard "tapping" practice that is used on humans, is the best course of action for most pets, especially the elderly or nervous pet.
Remember, many animals will not stay still for long periods of time for treatments, so you may be looking at 5-10 minute sessions at a time over the course of a few weeks before you will see the full effects. Although most animals will respond positively to both Reiki and EFT as they can sense that you are not there to harm them, and only want the best for them, some may be incredibly resistant, especially if they have suffered a prolonged illness or have a history of abuse. Be patient with them and send them positive energy and love.
Learn how to incorporate a 5 minute meditation into any part of your day to improve your spiritual health.
Are you on a spiritual journey? Would you like to be, but can’t even imagine how to start? Who has time for that anyway, right? Take five minutes out of your day to practice a modern meditation and you can start your own spiritual journey.
What is a spiritual journey? How it is “supposed” to be? What do most people imagine? Going away to an amazing retreat full of enlightening moments? Peaceful meditations surrounded by beautiful nature, wonderful meals resplendent with fresh produce and healthy choices…..ahhhh so lovely isn’t it? Anyone could find peace and enlightenment in that setting couldn’t they? What a lovely dream that not many of us have the opportunity to experience but would love to if we had the chance.
What if you have kids? What if “Mommy wake up!” is your literal crack of dawn wakeup call? Feeling peaceful? not exactly the tranquil sound of nature is it?
Welcome to the reality of modern spirituality for a parent. Peaceful moments are few and far between, and even the sanctity of a few moments alone in the bathroom is more often than not suddenly interrupted by a little voice from the other side with an urgent demand. So what is a parent to do? How can a person possibly hope to work on themselves if they never get a break?
Take 5 Minutes A Day For Yourself
Whenever and wherever it can happen, take five minutes to do something for yourself. The thought of taking time for yourself is a difficult concept to many parents,especially for many mothers. Moms tend to feel that they have to do it all, but doing it all for everyone else, leaves precious little time for the most important person of all~ you.
Do Something You Love
Even if you have dishes piled in your sink and a growing stack of laundry waiting to be washed. Even if your floors could use a cleaning, and you can't even think about the piles of paper taunting you, take five precious minutes for yourself.
Do what you love for a full five minutes. Read, dance, sing, make a great cup of something your enjoy like tea, coffee or hot chocolate and actually enjoy it while it’s still hot! For those five glorious minutes you are going to be only thinking about your needs. Breathe and enjoy. Take note of your senses as you do. Notice the smell and taste of your drink, or the sensation of your body moving as your dance, The sound of the music filling you room, or the sight and feel of the pages of your book in your hands. Try not to feel guilt or shame during this time, it’s okay to cater to yourself for a little while.
What does it accomplish? You allowed yourself to be with you, fully and completely with no interruptions. You took five minutes to connect with yourself again. You just took a five minute meditation. Didn’t it feel great? The point of taking five minutes for yourself is a baby step towards being able to connect with yourself again and find the inner peace you need to keep going with the daily slog, because let's be real, some days are a real challenge!
Fully enjoy your five minutes and then continue on with your day. When you need to, you can then tap into those good feelings that you allowed yourself to feel. Creating a feeling of positive energy is a big step towards mind-body-spirit healing and a great beginning step in any spiritual journey.
When anger is a predominant emotion in your life, your efforts for spiritual growth can be harmed. Read more in this enlightening post.
It seems to oppose the basic tenants of spirituality teaching. How can anger be of any benefit for anyone trying to follow a spiritual path? Spirituality is not about being perfect, or never feeling any emotions. Emotions are what allow us to connect to our fellow humans and all the creatures around us. Embracing our anger and looking at its root cause encourages us to embrace all parts of ourselves and let go of the negative energy associated with unexamined, idle anger, which only muddies up our spiritual path.
What is idle anger and why should it matter? Imagine a car that is running but just sitting there not moving. Is it serving any useful purpose or benefitting anyone in any way? As it sits there, it is wasting gas and causing noise and smoke pollution. Idle anger is like that car, just sitting there, not contributing in any positive way to a persons well being. It causes its own form of pollution and noise in the body and mind of the person it is idling in. It is hard to find your spiritual path when you cannot see the road in front of you for the smoke, or even hear your inner voice to think straight.
Many people categorize anger as a “thing” which must be controlled and segregated away, but by doing that, a person then will consider a part of themselves to be “bad” and not worthy of being included in their whole being.
A very effective method to try to discover the basis for your anger is to practice Journaling. Journaling is simply the act of writing out what is felt about a specific incident as a person feels it, and continuing to write whatever comes to mind. An example of this could be anger at being cut off in traffic while driving. Once the incident is written out and can be view and read aloud, it often becomes clear that memories and other feelings are somehow connected to that anger. With continued writing, incidents and feelings not even related to the driving incident emerge. A pattern begins to be form, which can then be viewed more clearly, and the various emotions and memories associated within it worked on.
It is at this time very beneficial to include the use of one or more alternative healing modalities in order to dissipate the disruptive emotions associated with the memories involved. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Hypnotherapy and Spiritual Coaching can help. Every memory is therefore still maintained, but it no longer holds a negative charge to it.
Once the basis for an ongoing anger is resolved, people often find that day-to-day life becomes easier for them. They are not so quick to become angry with others, and when they do feel angry they are able to feel the emotion, as they should but not let it take over their whole being. Acceptance of the emotion and letting go of it, allows them to continue on in their day and not hold onto that negative energy long term. Their car is no longer idling, and the road is clear ahead of them.
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