Three Coping strategies for anxiety are explored in this post which reminds us to take care of ourself too.
The modern world we find ourselves living in has never been more stressful. With the advent of emerging technologies, social media, and a faster-paced working environment, it can be hard to find time for ourselves. You may constantly be thinking about that meeting you have to attend at work, the conference you need to organize and the performance management review that’s coming up. All the while you have a pal who’s going through a drama that you need to support, your kids are running riot, and all of your so-called ‘friends’ on social media seemingly live perfect, awe-inspiring lives. It’s time to give yourself a break and try and relinquish some of the anxious feelings that have been invading your headspace. Take a look at these strategies that can help keep anxiety at bay.
Take Time Out For You. And Only You
It can be all too easy to think that having some winding down time involves taking the kids to the beach or going out for a meal with your partner. While these are great activities to partake in, you also need to find some spare time, even if it is ten minutes a day, solely for you. Head out for a walk on your own, read another chapter of the latest novel you’ve been reading, or watch an episode of your favorite show on TV. While it may seem insignificant, chilling out on your own can allow you to switch off from everything going on around you and allow you to escape into a more positive frame of mind. Instead of cogitating over the impending visit from your in-laws, think about your next family vacation.
Find What Works For You
Some people find that anxiety can manifest in physical ways. You may find yourself suffering from heart palpitations, tension headaches, tingly hands and feet or digestive issues. You could try an alternative remedy such as acupuncture, hemp supplements like those available at canabidol.com or even reiki massage. Relieving anxiety symptoms is as bespoke and as personalized as the condition itself. What works for a friend may not work for you so pay attention to your body and explore all the options available to you.
The easiest way to relieve anxiety symptoms is to do something to take your mind off the intrusive thoughts that can manifest as anxiety. By doing something physical like the exercise ideas explored at webmd.com, you are giving your mind something else to focus on that may involve a challenge. If you used to jog but haven’t done for a few years, strap on your running shoes and get training for a 5k park run. If you’ve always fancied having a go at rock climbing, now is your chance. By joining a club, you’ll meet like-minded individuals and find that your motivation to succeed in your new hobby far outweighs the burden of your anxiety.
Anxiety isn’t simply feeling a tad nervous - it can be a debilitating condition that negatively impacts on all aspects of your life. Follow these strategies in an attempt to banish anxiety for good.
My son has a new toy this week. It’s a mini grocery cart that he has wanted for ages. I saw it in the thrift store so I decided to buy it for him. Yesterday he came into my office pushing it full to the brim with fake veggies and fruits, and at the top sat his favorite stuffed Tiger and Bunny toys. I asked him if he was having fun with his new toy and commented on his stuffed animals. “Yup. I’m taking them for a walk” he said. “They are getting some fresh air!” and with that he rolled off again into the other room.
Watching him just made me smile and think about how easy it is for children to connect with fun and playfulness. How creative and inventive they can be, and how for the most part, it is so easy to make them happy. It also made me think about how quickly we can lose that part of ourselves. How for most of us growing up, also meant letting go of that joy.
It was not until I had my son that I realized how much of that joy I had let go of, and how so many of us have a need to connect with that part of ourselves again. I can hear the collective groan! Yes I am talking about that “find your inner child” stuff that people talk about, but don’t worry. There is a fine line to finding your inner child though, and it’s about still being an adult and keeping up with all of the responsibilities of your life, AND embracing that fun, playful and imaginative side of yourself.
So where to start? For my clients who are unsure and hesitant to begin, I always suggest a very easy route which is to purchase a box of crayons and a colouring book. They are readily available at any dollar store in a wide range of themes. In the privacy and safety of your own home, take the time to colour at least one page. Don’t worry about the “rules” that say the sky must be blue or the grass green etc. Just play and be creative. If you go outside the lines it’s okay. In fact, do it deliberately just to see how it feels: be brave! Each week pick up something new to try such as modeling dough, stickers, toy cars, blowing bubbles or whatever else you desire. I bet that pretty soon you will be looking forward to your new “toy” and what you get to play with that week!
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Lately I have been in a spiritual slump. I’ve been sick since the beginning of winter with an ongoing sinus issue that went straight to my lungs. My child and husband have both been sick recently too. It’s pretty hard to find the energy to do anything spiritual, when I am so exhausted and stressed out about my and my family’s health. Also, it’s supposed to snow again today. It’s the middle of March and as I dream of spring flowers and warmer weather Mother Nature is not done sending shivering winds and drifts of snow. How do you find that spark to keep going in times like this?
As I type this, I am listening to some relaxation music I found online. It is helping to take me to another place that doesn’t have snow and stress. Sometimes, that is all that you can do. Find something small that keeps you going. Music, a chapter of a favorite book, ripping images out of a magazine of a goal and putting those up so you can see them daily, whatever small inspirations that you can find that keeps you going.
Being a spiritual person doesn’t mean that you have all the answers. It doesn’t mean that you can’t and don’t fail. It doesn’t mean that you are perfect and without faults. Spirituality is a journey. I always say to my clients that we are all a work in progress, including myself. On days like this, I feel that journey very clearly, that struggle to walk the path and find reasons to go on with learning and growing and moving forward. So do you know what I do? I don’t move forward or even try to, but I also don’t say that I have failed. What I am doing is pausing, taking a break. I set myself up with a nice little virtual camp in my head. Right there on my path, because today, this week, maybe even for the next few weeks I just need to rest. I have learned that it is okay to just stop for a while. It is okay to give yourself permission to heal and recuperate. That “to do” list that is often a mile long needs to be tucked away for another day.
We live in a world where we often make ourselves feel guilty for not doing something all the time. If we are not moving all the time, working, cleaning, organizing, emailing, texting or chatting on the phone then we are somehow, not productive members of society or “good” people. We need to learn to give ourselves permission to let go when we need to. We need to learn that sometimes, the best thing you can for yourself is to rest, relax and take a break. Forgive yourself and just breathe.
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Learn how to incorporate a 5 minute meditation into any part of your day to improve your spiritual health.
Are you on a spiritual journey? Would you like to be, but can’t even imagine how to start? Who has time for that anyway, right? Take five minutes out of your day to practice a modern meditation and you can start your own spiritual journey.
What is a spiritual journey? How it is “supposed” to be? What do most people imagine? Going away to an amazing retreat full of enlightening moments? Peaceful meditations surrounded by beautiful nature, wonderful meals resplendent with fresh produce and healthy choices…..ahhhh so lovely isn’t it? Anyone could find peace and enlightenment in that setting couldn’t they? What a lovely dream that not many of us have the opportunity to experience but would love to if we had the chance.
What if you have kids? What if “Mommy wake up!” is your literal crack of dawn wakeup call? Feeling peaceful? not exactly the tranquil sound of nature is it?
Welcome to the reality of modern spirituality for a parent. Peaceful moments are few and far between, and even the sanctity of a few moments alone in the bathroom is more often than not suddenly interrupted by a little voice from the other side with an urgent demand. So what is a parent to do? How can a person possibly hope to work on themselves if they never get a break?
Take 5 Minutes A Day For Yourself
Whenever and wherever it can happen, take five minutes to do something for yourself. The thought of taking time for yourself is a difficult concept to many parents,especially for many mothers. Moms tend to feel that they have to do it all, but doing it all for everyone else, leaves precious little time for the most important person of all~ you.
Do Something You Love
Even if you have dishes piled in your sink and a growing stack of laundry waiting to be washed. Even if your floors could use a cleaning, and you can't even think about the piles of paper taunting you, take five precious minutes for yourself.
Do what you love for a full five minutes. Read, dance, sing, make a great cup of something your enjoy like tea, coffee or hot chocolate and actually enjoy it while it’s still hot! For those five glorious minutes you are going to be only thinking about your needs. Breathe and enjoy. Take note of your senses as you do. Notice the smell and taste of your drink, or the sensation of your body moving as your dance, The sound of the music filling you room, or the sight and feel of the pages of your book in your hands. Try not to feel guilt or shame during this time, it’s okay to cater to yourself for a little while.
What does it accomplish? You allowed yourself to be with you, fully and completely with no interruptions. You took five minutes to connect with yourself again. You just took a five minute meditation. Didn’t it feel great? The point of taking five minutes for yourself is a baby step towards being able to connect with yourself again and find the inner peace you need to keep going with the daily slog, because let's be real, some days are a real challenge!
Fully enjoy your five minutes and then continue on with your day. When you need to, you can then tap into those good feelings that you allowed yourself to feel. Creating a feeling of positive energy is a big step towards mind-body-spirit healing and a great beginning step in any spiritual journey.
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