Ways to encourage positive thinking in your life are highlighted in this contributed post.
Being more positive about yourself and life in general can seem like an impossible task at times. But a lot of people who have found themselves influenced more by negativity and positivity often don’t make enough of an effort to cast that negativity out of their lives. And it’s essential that we work hard to do just that, because being negative all the time is more exhausting and damaging to your health than you may think.
We’re going to look at three angles from which most people find themselves having the most severe problems with positivity. Don’t give into negative feelings - take action!
A lot of negativity stems from self-esteem problems, and a lot of self-esteem problems stem from a belief that you’re not a particularly beautiful or smart person. It’s a toxic mindset, and it’s often exacerbated by particular media outlets. Judgments about what the “right” or “normal” standards of weight and general beauty are never particularly useful, so it’s important not to take them to heart. You should only take seriously judgments from a medical or general health perspective - advice from a doctor or nutritionist, for example. If you do want to make changes to your weight, style, or knowledge, then good for you; self-improvement is a good goal, but it will be difficult to achieve if you’re too negative about your current situation.
Too many people seem to equate being single with being a failure. It really doesn’t matter how old you are; being single provides a lot of opportunity to focus on yourself in some positive ways, and it really is never too late to find someone. It may be best not to dwell on it and just really focus on yourself for a while. This doesn’t mean you should feel less worthy if you do decide to take matters into your own hands, however. A lot of people seem to feel a little ashamed about “resorting to” things like online dating or horoscope resources like AstroStyle, but this negativity is both pointless and harmful to your ultimate goal. It’s not in any way “pathetic” to actively pursue love instead of just waiting for it to fall in your lap!
Bottling it up
One thing that will never help you become a less negative person is bottling everything up. You know the old saying “if you don’t ask, you don’t get”? The same sort of logic applies to these situations; if you’re silent, then it’s going to be very difficult to get what you’re after. Speaking to friends or even asking for advice on anonymous message boards can help (though you’ll want to be careful not to be too sensitive when it comes to the latter!). But if you think more professional help will better defeat negativity, then speak to your doctor. Some people see this as capitulating to negative feelings; they see it as giving up the fight, in a way. But reaching out to experts for help is actually one of the hardest and, ultimately, most rewarding parts of the battle to become more positive.