Helpful ideas to tackle stress are highlighted in this contributed post
For the vast majority of people, it's assumed that, every once in awhile, you're going to come up against something in life that stresses you out. Things will make life difficult, complicated, or unpleasant. You'll have to struggle through frustration and tension in order to get your life feeling the way you want it to. But is this the way that it has to be? Sure, life is not always going to be easy, but does that mean that difficulties in life always have to have the effect of making you feel tense, stressed, and miserable? Well, the simple answer is no! Of course, as with most things, it's a little bit more complicated than that. Letting go of stress in your life isn't something that's always easy, but it is something that can be learned. Here are a few simple pieces of advice that will help you eliminate stress and take back control of your life.
Take the initiative
One of the biggest causes of stress for a lot of people is the sense that they don't really have any control over their own life. They feel as if they're beholden to their job, their bills, their parents, their partner, and anything else that they deal with on a day to day basis. But that's not true. The only person who really gets to decide what direction your life takes is you. Of course, that decision is often not particularly easy and often involves a fair share of compromises. But in the end, the decision is yours. Stop assuming that everyone else is going to tell you what you can or can't do, take the initiative, and push your life in the direction that you want it to go.
Now, this is something that you do have to be a little bit careful about. A nihilistic, "I don't care about anything" attitude towards your life is pretty immature and won't lead to a particularly positive experience. However, not caring about certain things in your life can lead you to feel incredibly free. If you don't care what other people think of you, then you're going to be able to express who you really are much more confidently. If you stop caring about things that you can't change in your life, then you're going to be able to start focussing your attention much more on the things that you can change. Take a look at what matters most to you, and you'll probably find a whole host of things that you simply don't need to care about.
Adjust your priorities
Speaking of what matters most, if you really want to avoid feeling stressed, then you need to start thinking more carefully about what in your life is actually worth feeling stressed over. Where are your priorities? Family? Money? Career? All of these things are valid but knowing which ones are actually important to you is an incredibly important step towards being able to put aside some of the stress that you might be feeling. If you can identify that something isn't really that important to you, then it will become that much harder to feel stressed about. This frees you up to focus on the things that do matter in a much more productive, and less stress-inducing way.