THE HARM IN NEGATIVE DAYDREAMING

Some people happily admit to it, others deny ever doing so, but at some point or another almost everyone has done it.  What is it? Why it’s the secret delight of creating a negative daydream about someone who has “wronged” you in some way. For many people it can be fun and diverting to image ways to “get back” at the object of their anger or frustration.

Maybe it was the Barista who got you order wrong on Monday morning when all you wanted was your hot coffee fast. Maybe it was a friend who borrowed money and hasn’t paid it back. Maybe, it was a family member whom you argued with but didn’t resolve the issue and you still seethe with anger.  In all these examples and more, many people will often turn to negative daydreaming in order to exact an imaginary revenge, but what are the Spiritual ramifications of this practice?

Negativity is not just a word, it is a state of being, an energy that you carry with you and put forth to the world. By allowing yourself to access that negative energy and fostering it through adverse daydreaming, you strengthen that energy.  You teach yourself that it is okay to imagine harming another person. You teach yourself that communication is not a valid means of resolving an issue.  You teach yourself that bottling up emotions like anger and frustration is acceptable and “normal” for you. If you have children, you teach them the same messages.

Sometimes it is not possible to communicate directly with the source of your anger or frustration. It is possible however, to remove the negative energy you have created in and around yourself by working on and resolving the basis for your feelings.  If you find yourself upset with a slow Barista, for example, and you want to know why it bothers you so much, you can begin by looking at the patterns in your life where you have found yourself angry.  Perhaps you will discover that there were many times where your anger was immediate and disproportionate to the situation.   That is generally an indicator of a deeper root source of pain for a person. You don’t have to suffer or be alone in your pain. You can choose to work with a qualified professional to seek out and resolve your issues.  Then you can have positive daydreams instead.

Jade
Let Your Spirit Grow.com

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