This is a contributed post.
Appreciation is all about showing gratitude, and it can be a powerful force for good in your life, and in the lives of those around you. Showing appreciation and giving credit and praise where it's due, has the power to make people feel good about themselves. This can then help to transform your relationship with them. After all, who doesn't want to be shown that they are valued? Read on to find out more about the power of appreciation.
Appreciation makes us feel good
Being appreciative of another person's efforts is something that can feel good to the person that is doing the appreciating. It means we are looking for positive things to comment on, which in turn changes our unconscious bias to a more positive vein.
It’s also much more fun to have a positive conversation. Especially if it's instead of being dragged down by gossip, moaning, and criticism that can so easily become an issue in everyday life.
Appreciation make the other person feel good
Of course, appreciation makes the person that is being appreciated feel good too. Everyone wants their achievement and efforts to be meaningful. Having someone else notice them, and acknowledge this makes people feel like what they are doing is worthwhile.
Appreciation motivates people
Helping people to feel worthwhile is it something that shouldn’t be underestimated. In fact, it is something that is hugely valuable in term of motivating them. Have you ever hear the phrase: ‘use more carrot than stick’ in term of motivation? Well, it primarily relates to the fact that folks like positive rewards as an incentive to completing tasks. Not criticisms or punitive punishments.
But what people don’t realize is that appreciation and praise is a powerful positive reward for many people. Although It does have to be delivered right. For example, many people will react badly to behaviour that they see as patronizing or manipulating. So appreciation must be kept age appropriate and genuine.
How to show appreciation
Finding ways to show your appreciation can stump some people. Of course, there is verbal reinforcement. That is saying thank you, pointing out a job well done, or praisining someone's contribution in front of others.
Others ways of showing appreciation around the home or workplace can be to leave little thanks you post it notes or sending email or texts. Showing that you have seen what has been done and appreciate it.
Or, you can even go so far as to put a more formal system in place, this works best in a structured environment like work, schools, and clubs. Remember too that it is most effective in term of appreciation if you are rewarding hard work and effort, not only achievement.
To do this, you can set up a rewards chart system, or bonus point systems and even give out glass trophies and awards, as well as material rewards at the end of a set time.
How to find things to appreciate
If you aren't used to finding things to appreciate it can be tough at first to come up with genuine things to be pleased with. But it will get easier with time.
In the meantime, you can try meditating to clear your mind and see what comes up. Or keep a notebook of things you notice throughout the day, no matter how small, of things that impress you.