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Don't give up on staying healthy and active just because you are getting older. Read these great tips to learn how to keep your mind and body healthy.
No matter how hard we might try, there is no way of stopping the clock or even turning back time. There is no amount of anti-aging creams that will help you hold onto your youth, and new beauty treatments that can keep you in your twenties or thirties forever. We need to come to terms with the fact that we are all going to get old at one point - it’s just a part of being alive!
But getting old doesn’t mean that you need to stop being healthy and enjoying your life. You just need to know what to expect once you do start to age so that you are better equipped to deal with these changes. Read on to find out more!
As we age, our bones begin to weaken and their density decreases. This is especially the case in women who have already gone through the menopause. In some worst-case scenarios, this can lead to health conditions like osteoporosis. Lots of old people also find that it takes longer to recover from injuries such as broken bones. There are ways to prevent your bones weakening too much, though. You just need to increase your intake of vitamin C and D as well as take part in a lot of exercise.
Our bones aren’t the only thing that weakens in our bodies as we grow older - our bladders do too! This is something else that is a major issue for women. Thankfully, there is a lot of help at hand. If you suffer with bladder problems, you might want to start buying incontinence products so that you don’t have to go through any embarrassing situations when you are out and about. Doing some pelvic floor exercises should help to strengthen the bladder which can improve bladder function.
Lots of people also experience a decline in their memory as they age. The best way you can prevent this from affecting you too much is to start working on your brain now. Doing a crossword or Sudoku puzzle each day will help strengthen the mind so that it isn't too badly affected by the aging process.
The Metabolism Slows Down
Many people find that their metabolism slows down as they enter old age as well. This means that your body won’t be able to metabolize food quite as quickly as it once could. As a result, you could find that it is a lot easier to put on weight. However, a slowing metabolism should also reduce your appetite, so you might find that you don’t eat as much as you used to, which can help you maintain a healthy weight.
You need to keep on top of your dental hygiene once you age as old people are more susceptible to teeth problems, such as cavities and gum disease. Visiting your dentist on a regular basis should help you with this.
If you follow all of the advice above, you shouldn’t find old age to be too much of a drag!
This post is designed to educate people on what they can do to alleviate their own mental health suffering or help to alleviate the suffering of others.
This week saw us celebrate World Mental Health Day and, yes, the world ‘celebrate’ is used very deliberately here. Mental health is something that should be celebrated and we as a society all need to pull together to ensure each other’s mental and emotional wellbeing. The problem is exacerbated by people (and, often, employers) who are either dismissive of the dangers presented by mental illness or have a backward and reactionary viewpoint regarding those who experience it. We need to shed the inherent stigma of this very real illness if we are to make progress in this field and alleviate the suffering of one in four people all over the world. Whether you’ve experienced difficulties with your own mental health, this post is designed to educate people on what they can do to alleviate their own suffering or help to alleviate that of others.
The key is understanding
Unfortunate as it may be, it’s human nature to fear the unusual and the unknown, and those who lack an understanding of mental illness are largely to react erratically to it out of fear. If you’re drawn to this post not because you experience mental health problems yourself but because you’d like to know more and wish to help others who do, then I thank you for taking that first step. Hopefully, a greater understanding of this field will generate a sincere passion to learn and help more. There are more options than ever for people who want to dedicate themselves to mental health. You can even get a Masters in clinical mental health counselling online. Many people who experience mental illness feel unable to openly discuss it as readily as they would, say a bout of influenza (more on that later), but opening a dialogue is a hugely important first step..
The truth is that mental health is a very broach church, rife with complexities and most people experience some form of mental illness at some point in their lives. Many unfortunate stigma persist to this day because of our need to simplify things, but mental health problems can be extraordinarily complex. Schizophrenia, for example, is a complex and deeply misunderstood mental illness that is often confused with the far less common Dissociative Identity Disorder..
It’s okay to talk about it
It’s vital that we as a society open up a frank and tolerant environment in which people are able to share our troubles and anxieties when it comes to our mental health. It’s really astonishing how much of a difference can be made when people can discuss their mental health openly with friends, family and colleagues. This will hopefully create an environment which is more conducive to people seeking out diagnosis and help rather than suffering in silence.
Treatment takes time
If you are currently experiencing mental health problems it can be frustrating when after what seems like a lifetime of diagnosis and analysis, treatment either has a negligible effect or isn’t working altogether. As infuriating as this can be it’s important to realize that psychopharmacology is an extremely complex field that requires the exact right drug and dosage for the individual patient. A course of pharmacological treatment should also be supplemented with some form of cognitive therapy.
With just a little understanding and the right treatment we can all do our bit to ensure that nobody need suffer unnecessarily with their mental health problems.
Discover Ways To Encourage Positive Thinking In Your Life
Being more positive about yourself and life in general can seem like an impossible task at times. But a lot of people who have found themselves influenced more by negativity and positivity often don’t make enough of an effort to cast that negativity out of their lives. And it’s essential that we work hard to do just that, because being negative all the time is more exhausting and damaging to your health than you may think.
We’re going to look at three angles from which most people find themselves having the most severe problems with positivity. Don’t give into negative feelings - take action!
A lot of negativity stems from self-esteem problems, and a lot of self-esteem problems stem from a belief that you’re not a particularly beautiful or smart person. It’s a toxic mindset, and it’s often exacerbated by particular media outlets. Judgments about what the “right” or “normal” standards of weight and general beauty are never particularly useful, so it’s important not to take them to heart. You should only take seriously judgments from a medical or general health perspective - advice from a doctor or nutritionist, for example. If you do want to make changes to your weight, style, or knowledge, then good for you; self-improvement is a good goal, but it will be difficult to achieve if you’re too negative about your current situation.
Too many people seem to equate being single with being a failure. It really doesn’t matter how old you are; being single provides a lot of opportunity to focus on yourself in some positive ways, and it really is never too late to find someone. It may be best not to dwell on it and just really focus on yourself for a while. This doesn’t mean you should feel less worthy if you do decide to take matters into your own hands, however. A lot of people seem to feel a little ashamed about “resorting to” things like online dating or horoscope resources like AstroStyle, but this negativity is both pointless and harmful to your ultimate goal. It’s not in any way “pathetic” to actively pursue love instead of just waiting for it to fall in your lap!
Bottling it up
One thing that will never help you become a less negative person is bottling everything up. You know the old saying “if you don’t ask, you don’t get”? The same sort of logic applies to these situations; if you’re silent, then it’s going to be very difficult to get what you’re after. Speaking to friends or even asking for advice on anonymous message boards can help (though you’ll want to be careful not to be too sensitive when it comes to the latter!). But if you think more professional help will better defeat negativity, then speak to your doctor. Some people see this as capitulating to negative feelings; they see it as giving up the fight, in a way. But reaching out to experts for help is actually one of the hardest and, ultimately, most rewarding parts of the battle to become more positive.
Explore suggestions on how to help yourself if you are suffering from depression.
Depression is a real illness and clinically recognized as mental health impairment. Sometimes depression is a symptom of something circumstantial going on in your life. Indeed so, there are other forms of that can be assessed as chemical imbalances, but these types can also be triggered by the circumstances of your life. It may be because of you every job, the people around you that you cannot connect with, a rocky road of divorce, or something much deeper as spiritual of sexual restlessness. Your body could be in chronic pain, and this can have an adverse affect on your mood. Going through a financially insecure and troubling time in your life is also very distressing, and prolonged worry will dip you into a cycle of depression. First, be honest with yourself and examine what might be the causing the tipping point, and then root out a solution that can alleviate the issue.
Challenge the negative thoughts
Your mind can be an echo chamber almost impenetrable by the outside world if you’re depressed; as is the common phrase ‘me, myself and I’. In a fight against depression a lot of mental strength is needed to change your outlook on life, but when you’re depressed, it seems like nothing can shake the bleakness out of your mind. The greatest perpetuation that continues the vicious cycle is that the negative thoughts are dominant and unchallenged. But the use of logic can flip those thoughts upside down. You might feel alone, that no one likes you, but could this be purely fictitious? Do you have any evidence for that? You’re not worthless; you just need to meet new people who appreciate you. You need to enter into a mode where you want to impact the world in a positive light; i.e. live for someone other than yourself.
Unfortunately, some people use drugs to try and escape their lives, which in the long run, doesn’t help their physical state of their situation. An addictive personality is a colloquial term based on the belief that certain people are predisposed to getting easily addicted to the problematic behavior. The common concept is that an individual is influenced by various factors in their life including social, family, and psychological environment. You can be treated to come off of common drug abuses at centers like CanadianCentreForAddictions.org. Such places give mental support to individuals, so they don’t need to resort to escapism through harmful substances. Counselors can help you put your self-belief back into your mind and help you to cope with negative thoughts that lead you astray. You'll get advice on how to form your own support system, as the time of suffering silently will be over, and you will get people dedicated to seeing you become healthy working with you to improve your personality.
Get outside the norm
There is a chemical change in the brain when met with new challenges, as the level of dopamine,which is associated with pleasure and enjoyment is altered. Do something new to get outside your comfort zone. When you’re depressed your enthusiasm is lackluster, and you can get stuck in a rut. By pushing yourself to do something different, you might meet new people, gain an interest in a new hobby, learn something you didn’t know, and challenge yourself to try something new.
Is the emasculation of men the new normal?
Read this post by Arun Eden Lewis to learn what he believes has happened to men in our modern society.
Search the words, “Where have all the good men gone?” and dozens of anecdotes, articles, blogs, and books will appear on your screen.
Overwhelmingly, this question is posed by women, discussed by women, and answered by women.
This, ironically, is an essential reason for these so called man-deserts—men are simply not being asked to contribute their opinions and perspectives. And the good men themselves are increasingly less likely to offer their point of view, for many reasons.
I do not seek to apportion blame here, on either side, but simply to address this question from the seldom-heard voice that is the object of the question itself: good men.
The last 100 years of suffragettes, feminists, and political correctness have challenged and continue to challenge thousands of years of patriarchy—and rightly so. Consequently, the roles of both men and women have been transformed and redefined.
While we struggle to adjust to the new and still evolving status quo, the war of the sexes has taken millions of casualties. In Western culture, divorce rates for first marriages range from 42 percent in the U.K. to 53 percent in the U.S. to a staggering 71 percent in Belgium. Subsequent marriages fare even worse.
The spectre of divorce is another contributing factor in the conspicuously expanding man-deserts. Many men, having seen their fathers broken by divorce, fear the loss of their assets, their homes, and their children and are simply stacking their chips, choosing not to gamble, and checking out of the marriage casino.
Family courts invariably award primary custody to the mother, while the father is restricted to weekend access, supervised visits, or left to literally climb the walls of Buckingham Palace in a superhero costume to protest rights for dads. Men—will they ever grow up?
The ridicule and debasement of men in the media and mainstream culture is now pervasive. Watch a commercial, sitcom, or movie, and invariably an immature man-child or dumb dad is the butt of the joke—the hapless buffoon. Fortunately, these silly men are always saved from themselves by a smart, witty woman or a conscripted, eye-rolling child.
The emasculation of men has become normalized.
Sensibly, rather than have their balls cut off (sometimes literally, and that often gets a good laugh), men are running for cover in their droves, leaving women mystified and asking, “Where have all the good men gone?”
When I was in secondary school, perhaps 14 years old, there was a girl who patrolled the playground, egged on by her gang of girlfriends, kicking the boys between the legs. Clearly, she had been informed by someone this was the quickest, easiest, and funniest way to bring those stupid boys down to earth.
One day it was my turn. Caught by surprise, I crumpled to the ground after a swift kick to the balls, in too much agony even to cry out. Oh, how the girls laughed! Even then, I abhorred a bully.
The following day, I found my attacker in the playground and, contrary to my upbringing, without warning I kicked her swiftly between the legs. To everyone’s surprise she also crumpled to the ground, in too much agony to cry out. A crowd of cheering boys slapped me on the back—their new avenger.
The girls stared at me wide-eyed in shock—a boy who fought back? No one had told them that was allowed, surely it was against the rules! Equality: it’s a son of a gun.
I remember feeling no satisfaction or honour in defeating a weaker adversary but sometimes, especially in the case of a bully, personal satisfaction and honour is not the point—standing up to their aggression is. As I grew into a man—a good man—I learned to walk away from provocation, as most good men do.
Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them!”
Remember the T-shirts launched in 2003? Followed by coffee mugs, posters, even a book.“Boys tell lies, poke them in the eyes!” Another favourite for young girls at the time.
It took a fathers’ rights activist to have this merchandise removed from thousands of retail stores. Inevitably, he was ridiculed by a myopic majority.
Presently, in some areas of the U.K., 80 percent of primary schools have three male teachers or less, one quarter of primary schools have no male teachers at all, and some towns have 65 percent single mother families.
A young boy can go to school and have no adult male role model, and then return home and have no adult male role models.
Young girls are achieving significantly higher academic standards than young boys. This feminization of schools spills over into university, then the workplace, and eventually the home, completing the insipid cycle and the marginalization of both boys and men.
I was born in 1968. I grew up with a strong mother, four stronger sisters, and no father. I was taught, not only by my family but also by wider society, to regard women as my equal, and I always have. Yet, unknown to me, a generation of women were being indoctrinated and trained with a sharp-edged tool kit designed to emasculate men.
Men have been subjugating women for centuries; now, they’re getting payback. It seems only fair. The fox has turned on the hounds and she’s packing a punch, or a kick to the balls. But the nature of men when faced with a fight is to fight back, either psychologically or physically.
Clearly there are no winners in this scenario.
The relentless competitive struggle to determine who wears the trousers is simply a turnoff for many men. Many are just opting out of the kind of psychological warfare that is common in relationships today, unwilling to engage in the minefield of mind games, which are usually executed in three ways.
The first is the habitual belittling and denigration of men, in private or in front of friends, family or colleagues, for what is supposed to pass as humour. The second is letting a man know, casually of course, that other men are sexy, have better looks, more money, talent, or fame.
The third, and perhaps the most destructive is being told over and over, “We don’t need no man. Men are obsolete.”
I’ve lost count of how often I’ve heard this since adolescence.
If you tell a man often enough that he is surplus to requirements, eventually he will stop expending his energy to convince you and himself otherwise.
Men are rapidly waking up to this phenomenon of man-bashing, so much so that a disillusioned social movement has arisen with its own freshly-minted acronym: MGTOW, Men Going Their Own Way.
Supported by websites and online forums, men are regrouping with a common cause, a sense of brotherhood, and finding their voices again.
The essential precepts of MGTOW are financial independence, rejection of chivalry, social preconceptions of what a man should be, and consumer culture which defines masculinity by a man’s house, car, clothes, watch, or cologne. It is the refusal to be shamed into conventional compliance by being told to “man up.”
Many aggrieved MGTOW refuse to marry or even date Western women, the more ardent among them consciously choosing non-committal relationships, strippers, pornography, or celibacy. Above all, goes the MGTOW mantra, maintain sovereignty of self.
I have been dating for more than 35 years, and back in the 1980s, a man was expected to pay for the movie tickets, dinner, flowers, chocolate, the diamond ring, the house. In each subsequent decade these social conventions have slowly eroded, yet to a greater or lesser extent still remain. Long-held social biases, like the wage gap for example, take time to bring to full equality.
It is important to recognize, however, that equality is a two-way street. It is abundantly clear that many men and women are struggling to walk along that street in close proximity, let alone hand in hand. Why? Because for a century we have been digging up and bulldozing said street. Now, it’s full of potholes, power struggles, and barely fit to travel. Yet travel it we must.
The original message of equality has been somewhat skewed. Women often recycle the poorly thought-out doctrine that they are the same as men. Equality is not always sameness, and sameness is not always equality.
For example, women have equal opportunity to go to war and fight side by side with men, but the physical standards to allow them to do so are not the same. And this can be seen across a whole spectrum of professions, from firefighters to ballet dancers.
Equality is not always sameness. Difference is diversity, and should be a cause for celebration, not dogmatic elimination.
Men are often told (but, again, not asked) they are afraid of strong independent women. Many men, tired of such futile debates and wary of being branded a misogynist if they dare to disagree, are simply shutting down and becoming emotionally unavailable to women, taking permanent residence in their man-caves.
The truth is, men love strong and independent women—it turns them on, in every way. What men don’t love are the predominantly masculine traits that often go along with the package. The relentless competitiveness (necessary in the workplace no doubt, but hardly necessary at home in a loving relationship), the verbal aggression, the emotional manipulation, and the psychological controlling are huge turn-offs.
Increasingly, men are just not interested in competing at work and then having to come home and compete with their partners. In the sphere of heterosexual relationships, most women are not attracted to emasculated feminine men, which is fair enough. By the same token, most men are not attracted to masculine, domineering women.
So, these are some of the general and specific issues creating man-deserts, from the perspective of good men.
But what solutions are there? Waking up to our social conditioning is a good place to start.
Many women are beginning to reject the modern brand of feminism, the so called third-wave that is tantamount to thinly veiled misandry. Equally many men, for two or three generations now, are rejecting the attitude that a woman is some kind of second class citizen.
We clearly have work to do on both sides.
Letting go of these destructive modes of thought, communication, and behaviour is an essential process for healthier and happier relationships between men and women.
However, denying these issues will in no way change the interpersonal landscape for the better, and women will continue to ask, “Where have all the good men gone?” while wandering an ever-expanding and barren man-desert.
So, where have all the good men gone?
For now they have gone their own way. But they are out there, in the same desert, contentedly swimming in the oases they have found for themselves, no doubt waiting for the fourth-wave of feminism to wash over them so we can all truly embrace equality, just like the first-wave promised.
Her name is Taryn Brumfitt and she wants to make a feature length documentary that will unite women across the globe to love their bodies!
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