Intuition is a gift we all, but many do not listen to it. Continue reading to learn how listening to your intuition can help you. I am an intuitive. I just "know" things without a logical reason. It's a feeling deep within my soul. I trust the information I receive on this level to be true. I can also feel energy and see images and symbols . Many people have asked me how that works for me, and when did I know I had this gift? I tell people that I have had it all of my life, but as a child the strength of my gift scared me, and having no support or guidance as to what to do with it, I learned to ignore it for the most part or push it away. Only as an adult was I able to allow myself to accept that part of me and use it to help myself and eventually help others. I rely on my intuition a great deal to help guide me and give me information about people and situations. Sometimes that scares people as they think I can read their mind or see into the future. I assure you I cannot. If I could do that, I would have looked for the winning lotto numbers long ago!
Intuition is not a mystical or magical thing. It is something that everyone carries within them, but so many people are frightened by their own voice. Often this is because they feel that they never had a voice growing up. They were taught on so many levels that they should not be heard, not even by themselves. What sort of effect does not having a voice cause in your adult life? Well, it can show itself in various ways. One way is the type of person who can never stop talking. Wait…what?? Yes, because a person who never had a voice as a child, realizes as an adult that they do have an outer voice, and they want to use it all the time, so they never stop! Chatter, chatter all the time, never allowing anyone else to get a word in edgewise, or worst of all never allowing themselves to hear their own inner voice. Another example is someone who is so quiet; when they do speak you are not even sure you can hear them say anything. Again, they don’t trust their voice, or that anyone will want to hear them so they speak very quietly. Sometimes a person is so hard on themselves, they will stutter and stammer, gasping for words and air as they struggle to speak. What do all these people have in common? They struggle with feeling like they are not heard, even as adults, they have allowed that early “training” to convince them, that they are not worth hearing. It has gone so far, that they dare not begin to listen to their inner voice either. What is this voice I speak of? What is Intuition? Intuition is not a voice of fear of something that poses danger to you. It is the voice that protects you from danger, or circumstances that will not benefit you in the long term. Women especially have learned to ignore their inner voice that is screaming to them. In relationships, in social settings, with strangers who seem nice and stop to ask for directions or offer assistance, that little voice is often ignored. LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION. IT CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE! What do I mean save your life? Save you dear reader on so many levels! Yes from obvious dangers such as predators or theft, but dangers of the spirit too. An example of this would be to continue to stay in a relationship with someone who is a lovely person, but you are just not a great match for each other. Every day that you try to force a relationship to work between two people who should just not be together, is another day where you allow a little bit of yourself to die. You are doing a disservice to yourself and to the person you are with by not listening to what your inner voice is telling you. This applies to both men and women. If your intuition is screaming to you, about anything, please listen to it. I am not writing this to cause fear and terror into anyone. I don’t want you to go around in your life and be afraid of everyone and everything. The goal is not to lock yourself away so no one can hurt you; the goal is to listen to your little voice called intuition so that you can begin to have faith in yourself. You have more power than you can imagine. You have more strength than you can imagine. You are not a physical being struggling to be spiritual, you are a spiritual being trapped in a physical body.
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When your partner does not care to find their inner bliss, what should you do? Keep reading to learn more. In general, It is often easier to explore your spirituality when you are single. When a person is single their time is their own. It seldom matters how much of your free time is taken for meditation, yoga classes, or retreats. Single people also have the freedom to decorate in any style they desire, and that includes objects which speak to their spiritual soul, like a Buddha figure or gemstones.
The single life is wonderful for many people. There is nothing wrong with being single and loving it, if that is the direction you have chosen for your life. For those who are not single though, negotiating time and energy for spiritual discovery can be a difficult thing, especially when your partner has no interest in finding or changing their own spiritual path. What should you do? Do you force your partner to learn with you? Do you give them gifts of books on what you are studying? Respect It is very important that you do not try to force your personal views and beliefs onto you partner. Do not berate them for their choices, or act superior because you have decided to explore a new avenue of belief and learning. Do not add spiritual objects to your home with a total disregard of your partners personal space. Your partner is on their own path, just as you are, and both of you have to focus on your own individual journeys. For most couples, this will be a difficult time. The transition in thinking, the emotions, and the excitement of learning can be overwhelming for the partner who is, for lack of a better term “left behind.” Find Balance The method for dealing with this period, is to work on finding balance. For the person who is exploring their spiritual path and the person who is not. If you learn something new that you want to share with your partner, do it lovingly and gently without forcing your beliefs onto them. Don't Do This You have just taken a class on Chakras. You are excited and want to share all that you have learned with your partner. In your excitement you buy a collection of gemstones which relate to the Chakras. You insist on giving your partner “their” stone. This is a gemstone that you have picked for them. You are certain it is theirs because you are convinced a certain Chakra point in them needs to be "fixed." You then thrust this stone into their hand, and insist that they have this “problem”. Without giving them a chance to speak you then describe in detail to them all of their “issues”. You then order them to carry the gemstone with them at all times. Do This Instead You have just taken a class on Chakras. You are excited and want to share all that you have learned with your partner. In your excitement you buy a collection of gemstones which relate to the Chakras. You really want to share what you have learned with your partner, but you recognize that they may not be receptive to what you have just learned. You love your partner very much and although you want to share your new knowledge right away, you decide to find a beautiful bowl to display your new gemstones in instead. By doing this, you know that your partner will see them at some point. You also know that if they are interested, they will ask you about them. If that happens, you will briefly explain what they are for, and will only elaborate IF and WHEN they ask. You also decide to leave your books from the class on your coffee table, so that you or anyone else can read them too. You know that just like water flowing down a river, it is best to let people find their own way, at their own pace. Feeling Left Out What about the partner on the receiving end of all this spiritual enlightenment? They may feel that they have a partner they do not recognize. They may begin to feel left out, alone or no longer compatible. One thing a partner can do is to try and offer support during this time of exploration. They should not make light of their partners choices. Work together to create a space that works for both of you through communication and compromise. Two people who are committed to each other can be on different paths, and sometimes those paths can overlap. Experience different views, share new discoveries with each other at a leisurely pace, and continue to be there for your partners as you journey together. Learn how self hypnosis can free you from your self set limitations. Read more in this heartfelt post. When I was a little girl, I used to dream that someone would rescue me from my life. I never thought of myself as a princess. I was certainly never raised like one or taught to act like one, but I still wanted to be saved by someone. No Knight To Rescue Me As the years went by, no one came to save me. I waited like I was supposed to, but I saw no brave knights. Where was he? I wondered why I had no flowers, no gentlemanly kisses to my hand, and no offers of courting. In my heart, I knew that I was a good person, I prided myself on not being like the negative people around me. Every day I saw by example those who seemed to enjoy seeing people suffer. I consoled myself that I certainly didn’t get any joy out of anyone’s suffering, so therefore, I was sure to be rescued soon! While I continued to wait, there was constant negativity directed at me. It made me doubt myself and my actions more and more. I was building bricks for my tower without even realizing it. Soon I had built so many bricks for my tower, that it was almost blocking out all the light around me. I began only paying attention to the darkness. That darkness fed my fears, ignorance of life, false beliefs, and poor self esteem. One day I had enough. I decided that sitting in a tower was pretty darn boring! I wanted to learn things! I wanted to live my life! I wanted to have my own voice! I looked around my tower and I realized that even though the negative people in my life had helped me build the bricks, it was me who had built my tower. No one had put me in that enclosed space but myself. So I looked around my tower, and I decided that things needed to change, because my prince wasn’t coming, this wasn’t Camelot, and I was no Guinevere! Bring A Positive Voice I had no idea where I was going to start or how, so I just started with something I already knew how to do. I know how to talk to myself. It sounds strange but so many people do it. The difference now was that I would only talk to myself with positive messages. Any time I heard myself saying something negative out loud or in my head, I would correct myself, and change the message to a positive one. I forced myself to get out there and be social. When I met someone new, previously I would have told myself that the person "wasn’t interested in what I had to say". With the “new” me, I forced myself to say: “This will be fun. It’s exciting to meet new people. I wonder what interesting conversations we will have?” At first it was incredibly hard for me to even think positive thoughts! I struggled to maintain control and not panic when I spoke to new people. Often I would pretend that I was excited to meet someone new, but inside I was shaking with insecurity. Eventually, forcing myself to do it over and over again, I began to realize that it wasn’t an act anymore. I really did enjoy meeting new people and having interesting conversations. Once I could get out of living in my own thoughts all the time, I started to observe body language and mannerisms, and I saw that other people were nervous too! I was not alone after all. Self Hypnosis I didn’t know it at the time, but I learned years later what I was doing is a form of Self Hypnosis. Self Hypnosis is something that most people do all day long, but unfortunately, many people give themselves negative messages. Negative self talk only causes a reinforcement of negative patterns in the brain. What does that mean? It means that if all you see, hear and speak is negative, then you will unconsciously look for negative in every situation. You will attract, and feel negative all the time. With that one action of continued positive self-talk, I had kicked out some the bricks in my tower to let more light in. By doing that, I was able to see that there was hope in my life, so I kept encouraging myself to try new things. I went to social events that I never would have gone to before. I forced myself to talk to people, sometimes people I knew, mostly people I didn’t know. Sometimes that didn’t go very well, because I ended up talking to people who were stuck in their own negative patterns, but I kept trying. The braver I got, the stronger I felt. I volunteered in hospitals so that I would be forced to interact with people. One volunteer position was in a hospital gift store so I could learn new skills without the pressure of worrying about being fired if I messed up! Let The Light In Everyone has their own path in life, and only YOU get to decide how you will view it. If you only see the rocks you stumble on, or the animals that try to bite you, you will miss some incredible aspects of your journey along the way. If you hold fear in your heart, and build up your tower so you never move forward, never feel the touch of another; never move on from past negative experiences, you will have deprived yourself of a full life and an amazing journey. As the years have gone by and my life has gone up and down, with a variety of negatives and positives. Everyone is a work in progress as no one is perfect; no one is without fault. Today my tower has some bricks left. They are pretty strong and resistant to breaking, but that is okay. I am working on them, and loving myself, knowing the light can reach me now. Does the Festive Season cause you stress because there are too many food temptations? Read more on how you can stop your food cravings and enjoy the Festive Season once again. Temptations All Around The festive season is probably the hardest time of year for anyone trying to have a healthier lifestyle. Enticing food temptations are around every corner, from gourmet stores displaying luxurious treats, to co-workers baking goodies and bringing them in to share. It can be overwhelming and intimidating to try and constantly resist them, especially with well meaning persons encouraging you to have “just a taste” or saying things like “come on, it’s the holidays, one bite won’t kill you!” It may be true that one bite won’t kill you but it could lead to an avalanche of poor choices and the attitude of defeat~ “well I gave in all last week, so I might as well just give up trying.” How do you stay motivated to resist temptation when you are faced with it every day? Tapping On Emotional Memories Commonly called Tapping, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a useful and effective tool to help combat food cravings because it works on the emotional memory tied to a food craving. The myth of "willpower" makes it seem that only those with a strong will can avoid all the delightful treats around them. Images of desired foods are very appealing, and are able to sway many people to suddenly want something that had not thought about, like seeing a tray of Festive cookies in front of them and suddenly wanting to eat them! Food cravings are increased when we smell food. Our sense of smell is one of our strongest senses. Smells tie us to emotional memories, like the smell of fresh baked cookies can remind someone of a happy childhood memory like baking with a grandparent. EFT is a technique, which is most effective when done with a specific goal in mind. When working with food cravings, it is helpful to have that item – for example a cookie, placed in front of the person who wishes to work on their cookie cravings is the first step to combating the desire to eat it. All of our senses are engaged when we are around food. EFT works with all of our senses and our physical and emotional reactions to foods. The sight, smell, taste, sound, touch, and emotional connections to that food are all worked on bit by bit until the desire to eat the unwanted food is greatly reduced or disappears all together. A Fun Experiment There is a fun experiment anyone can try to see how much our physical responses and emotional responses play into our food cravings. 1. Have a desired food item (still in its packaging) placed on a table in front of the person who is craving it. 2. Have the person only look at the food in question and ask them how much they are craving it on a scale of 1-10? With 10 being that the have a very urgent desire to eat the food. 3. Ask the person to now handle the food and open the packaging on that food item. Notice the physical and emotional responses the person will exhibit. You will see physical signs such as heart racing, skin flushing, inhaling to smell the food better, and mouth watering. Emotional responses can smiling, happiness, anxiety (guilt) or anger because they are being tempted. So if this Festive Season you want to try to not to eat every temptation you come across, try EFT. There are many reputable practitioners who can help you overcome your physical and emotional tie to food cravings. Self hypnosis can help motivate you to make positive changes in your life. Sometimes life can be a real struggle. When you are sick, or your home is messy, work is exhausting and maybe your pets are demanding; all you want to do is pull the covers over your head and go back to sleep! Simple motivation can be a challenge never mind continuing your path of learning and spiritual growth! Self Hypnosis To The Rescue! Hypnosis can help you find your motivation to make positive changes in your life. Give yourself positive messages and encouragement. It can be anything that will help you be more proactive. Simple instructions like: "Wash half the dishes and then you can have that next cup of coffee” Or “I will fold this laundry and then feel great when it's gone." Whether you say it out loud or in your own head, giving yourself positive messages and encouragement are all methods of Self Hypnosis. We do this every day without even thinking about it. When you drive home and don’t remember how you got to your driveway is a form of Self Hypnosis. Hypnosis Is Relaxing Hypnosis is something that often makes people feel scared or uneasy. People often think of it as something mystical or magical but that is not Hypnosis. We are often in a Hypnotic state but we don’t even realize it. Think of that moment when you are just about to fall asleep. Your whole body feels relaxed and heavy, and it seems too much effort to open your eyes or even move a limb. That is a Hypnotic state. You have allowed yourself to relax, not only you body but your mind as well. It is at that time, that you may start to dream or have random thoughts or images. What you are doing is allowing your subconscious mind to be present. You are allowing yourself to relax and receive whatever information is there for you. Are you still in control? Could you make yourself wake up if you wanted to? Of course you could. You are still in control of your mind and your body, just as would be in a Hypnosis session with a Hypnotherapist. Seeing A Hypnotherapist For Help If you feel like Self Hypnosis is great but you need more help, you can visit a Hypnotherapist. Hypnotherapy gives you a chance to decide what direction you want to go in, and what you want to work on. A certified Hypnotherapist will help guide you to reach a relaxed state, to then work on whatever you need to. What can you work on in a Hypnotic state? The simple answer is anything you want to, as long as you are open and honest with yourself and are willing to change. Smoking and food addictions, stress, anxiety, breaking patterns, and so much more can be helped with Hypnotherapy, but really it is any issue that you feel is detrimental or disruptive to your quality of life. It's Not For Everyone There are certain individuals that will either have a harder time or may not be able to be helped with Hypnosis. Mental illness such as Schizophrenia or persons with a mental deficiency will most likely not be able to be helped, as they are either not able to maintain the concentration and relaxation needed to access their subconscious mind for an extended period of time, or they may be in a subconscious state all the time. When that happens, the connection to the present moment is not as stable, and harder to maintain for the purposes of self-realization and examination of behaviors and patterns, and beliefs. So dear readers tonight when you find yourself drifting off to sleep take a moment and enjoy the physical sensation of that relaxed state. Enjoy the sensation that of all of your muscles are relaxed; notice how calm you feel and perhaps even hear the sound of your gentle breathing. Feel the softness of your pillow cradling your head and the warmth of your blanket. Notice how you feel peaceful, relaxed and open to receive whatever your subconscious puts forth as you are in a wonderful Hypnotic State. |